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    Why Do Gay Men and Black Women Understand Me Better? | My Hair System Diary



    It's not uncommon to feel more comfortable discussing certain topics with certain groups of people. In the case of hair systems, I found it more possible and felt more comfortable discussing it with black women and gay men because I felt as though they had a better understanding of the importance of hair and appearance in society.


    Discrimination and Hair Texture Go Hand in Hand

    For black women, hair has historically been a political and cultural issue. Many black women face discrimination and prejudice based on their hair texture and style, and as a result, hair has become an important aspect of black culture and identity. Women's wigs can be a way for black women to achieve the hairstyles they desire and combat the negative stereotypes surrounding black hair.

    Hair is not just a matter of personal preference or style; it is an important aspect of cultural identity. Black hair is diverse and can be styled in a variety of ways, but unfortunately, not all hairstyles are accepted or celebrated in mainstream culture. This has led to many black women feeling pressured to conform to Eurocentric beauty standards and to hide or alter their natural hair texture.

    However, in recent years, there has been a growing movement to celebrate and embrace natural black hair. Many black women are now choosing to wear their hair in its natural state, whether that be in afros, locs, braids, or twists. This movement has been supported by celebrities, politicians, and activists, who have used their platform to raise awareness of the issue and promote self-acceptance.


    Let's Celebrate All Hair Textures and Styles

    Despite the progress that has been made, there is still much work to be done in terms of combating hair discrimination and promoting diversity and inclusivity in the beauty industry. Black women should be able to wear their hair in any style they choose without fear of judgment or discrimination. It is important to continue raising awareness of hair discrimination and to promote self-love and acceptance of all hair textures and styles.

    Similarly, for gay men, appearance can be a significant factor in their lives. Many gay men face discrimination and pressure to conform to certain beauty standards, this can lead to feelings of insecurity and self-doubt, especially if they are experiencing hair loss or thinning.


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    Hair Systems Help with My Confidence

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    Hair systems have been a solution for gay men like myself who want to achieve their desired look and feel more confident in their appearance. Hair systems can be customised to match a person's natural hair colour, texture, and density, and can be styled in a variety of ways. This can help gay men feel more comfortable and confident in their own skin, which is especially important given the societal pressures we may face.

    In addition, the LGBTQ+ community has a long history of using fashion and style as a form of self-expression and identity. Many gay men see fashion and grooming as a way to express their individuality and creativity, and hair systems can be seen as another tool in their toolkit to achieve the look they desire.



    It is important to note, however, that not all gay men feel pressure to conform to certain beauty standards or feel the need to use hair systems. As with any group of people, there is a wide range of experiences and perspectives within the LGBTQ+ community. Ultimately, it is important to promote self-acceptance and self-love in all forms and to support individuals in their choices when it comes to their appearance.


    Why Gay Men and Black Women Understand Me Better

    Meanwhile, my straight friends may not have the same level of understanding or appreciation for the significance of hair in certain communities. They may not be aware of the struggles and issues faced by black women and gay men in relation to hair, and as a result, they may not be as open to discussing hair systems.

    At the end of the day, it's important to remember that everyone has their own experiences and perspectives, and it's okay to feel more comfortable discussing certain topics with certain people. It's important to find a supportive and understanding community, regardless of their background or identity.


    Why not check out the Lordhair Facebook community and discuss your hair system with others there? 



    Ray is a guest contributor to our blogs with an extensive background in PR. Ray loves to discuss his own hair system journey by offering insights into wearing and styling a hair system as well as providing observations on the role of hair in sexual and gender identity from an LGBTQ+ perspective. Be sure to check out more of Ray’s Diversity content.